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How To Start Life Again After A Divorce

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Divorce is a big deal and something that nobody expects to go through. However, the truth is that it sometimes happens and while there’s no guidebook on such a life event, it can be comforting to know that there are plenty of people who’ve been in your position prior.

Starting life again after divorce might be a challenge but it’s something you and anyone in this situation can manage. Here are some top tips for how to start life again after a divorce, whether it was a brief marriage or one that lasted decades.

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How To Start Life Again After A Divorce

Complete all divorce proceedings 

Before you close this chapter of your life for good, you want to make sure that you’ve completed all of the necessary divorce proceedings. Speak to family lawyers who can assist in divorces, especially if there are children involved.

A divorce of a newlywed couple or a couple without children might be a smoother process, depending on what assets need to be split. When children are involved and custody battles occur, this can delay proceedings, so it’s important to have a specialist divorce lawyer to help you get the best outcome.

Throw a divorce party or dinner

Divorce may feel like a disappointment to you, especially if you weren’t the one to initiate it. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate a divorce. It may be the end of a relationship in the most formal of manners, but that relationship should still be appreciated for what it was, whether good or bad. Even the bad parts of a relationship can often provide us with valuable insights.

Throwing a divorce party or dinner with your nearest and dearest is a great way to say goodbye to that old part of your life and hello to the new and exciting one. It’s become a very popular trend to throw a divorce dinner or party, so why not jump on the bandwagon and have some fun with it?

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Expect to lose some friendships 

It’s somewhat expected that when it comes to your friendships, you may lose one or two after you get divorced. That’s all dependent on your relationship with your ex-spouse and whether you have shared friendships.

If that’s the case, then you may lose some friends if they side with the other partner, rather than being fair and maintaining both relationships. The takeaway: if you lose a friendship, that’s a blessing in disguise. You’ll find out who your real friends are and can start life again with the right people by your side.

Focus on your own needs and wellbeing

This is a time in your life when you’ve got yourself to solely focus on instead of a partner. With that in mind, consider focusing some time on your own needs and well-being. Do stuff for you that you wouldn’t have done before but now have the time to do, whether it’s reading more books, trying a new sport or practising more self-care.

Set some goals

Goal setting is certainly something worth embracing, especially when you’re fresh out of a divorce. It’s good to have some motivation and direction to work with, so consider what you want to achieve this year and beyond.

Related post: How to Set Goals you WILL Achieve

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Life after divorce – a fresh start

Hopefully, these tips have shown you that however difficult the divorce may be, it’s not all bad. It’s an opportunity for a fresh start in life, with renewed friendships and a chance to focus on yourself and your goals. It is maybe even a good excuse for a celebration. Keep these tips in mind and hopefully, you’ll be able to navigate life after divorce and start life again in a positive way.


  1. Lauren says:

    I am sure this will be a helpful post for anyone having to start again after a divorce. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Sophie says:

      Thank you for reading and commenting!

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